Wendy's daughter lived for only 12 hours and then was taken home. Becoming angry with God and losing her faith completely, Wendy heard of a basketball star who had also lost an infant and had found comfort through reading Embraced By The Light. Wendy shares her journey from feeling punished by God to really praying "for the first time in my life." and also finding comfort through Betty's experience and peace to know that her daughter chose her to be her mother.
When in the presence of Jesus, his love surrounding me, I felt his enormous spirit and will never forget the sweetness of his voice. His message still rings in my ears and is ever so clear: “Above all else, love one another...”
“Love one another,” I thought. “Can it be this simple?” I wondered. Loving whomever and whatever was easy within the presence of Jesus. Here in the spirit world, I felt love everywhere! Heaven holds nothing but love! God is love, Jesus is love—the ability to love was no challenge at all in this heavenly realm.
Back on earth, I found loving everyone is not so simple—not so easy! The love I had for everyone, and felt back from them, was based upon conditions that made me feel vulnerable. Loving with all your heart can hurt, and hurt deeply. During a lifetime, loved ones are lost to death, to life-changes and even to others when love wanes and partners once committed to unending love find somebody new.
I was shown that to love and to be loved—is one of the strongest driving forces within mankind. Either love or the lack of love will compel or govern at nearly every turn. Almost every expression, every thought and deed, seeks love and acceptance of that love. We are challenged by this never ending need and are often brought to despair because of it.
When I met Jesus, I felt the pureness of his heart and knew the power of his unconditional love for me directly. I felt a rapturous sensation that I can only attempt to describe as supreme love…never ending…eternal! We simply cannot duplicate that love on earth, however, we can show love in many ways so that its authenticity and power are undeniable!
The internet is replacing much of our authentic connecting with others. The positive aspect is that it is easier, we can accomplish many things more efficiently and quickly. However, it has a less desirable aspect too. We are all conduits of love, giving and receiving in an exchange of energy with others as we weave in and out of each other's day. Replacing personal interactions with people on the internet hinders the electro-magnetic energy that is exchanged through direct human contact. Deterioration of the spirit, and painful depression, can develop without that exchange of energy. Connecting through the internet, while it may be enjoyable and good, should have it's limits when it comes to interacting with others and those you love.
Making the effort to give and receive love through the real interweaving of our self with others creates brilliant ripples that ripple-on to touch many other lives! We never know who God might be sending our way; calling us to uplift with our love through even a simple act of kindness.
When I go shopping I like to search and feel for the needs of the people around me. I pray for God's guidance should anyone need my energy, that I not pass by one opportunity to serve his precious children or child in need. When I return home I always feel that I've done my best to serve the needs that surface as I shop.
A few weeks ago I was at the grocery store when I noticed the clerk whose check out counter I loved to go through did not seem to be his normal self. He was always of good cheer, happy-go-lucky. While checking out, I felt to ask him if he was okay, that I noticed he did not seem to be his usual self. His eyes moistened as he opened up to me and told me of his heavy burden. He and his wife had just learned that she has terminal cancer, and that it was too far advanced for treatment. Tears rolled down his cheeks as we talked, all the while he continued checking my items. The line grew with waiting people, they couldn't help but hear us talk and they too were saddened. When finished, I reached for his hand to hold and had a golden moment to tell him that life is endless after leaving this earth, that one day we will join those we love in heaven. I told him that I would pray for him, his wife and family. He nodded his head and smiled for the first time, as did others in line.
As I walked out of the store, I turned and looked one more time and he was cheerfully helping his next customer with his usual exuberance. Five minutes of effort on my part not only made him feel better, but already he was creating positive ripples to others that would in turn multiply and bring positive to many more...and it brightened my day too!
I eventually learned how it is that we are to learn "to love above all else.” God is pure love! He is the ultimate of love and he desires for us to grow to become as he is. Learning to love is a selfless act that comes with self-giving and sacrifice. While it is risky business for some, it is our ultimate goal---our greatest challenge on earth--- and what we came here to learn. For higher growth, God sent us to earth to acquire this attribute for ourselves. To become beings of greater love—our understanding of love had to internalize–to become a part of our soul. This can only happen through experience. On Earth, what love we gain is tested to the nth degree! By the time we think we have learned it all, something develops to further our testing—and the tests are almost always through painful trials. As we learn what true love is not, we will learn what pure love is.
To love, in the purest way, we must first recognize and develop the love already within us. Through mistakes and through misuse of love we will come to learn what is pure about love. We can work through our physicality bound by ego; even those whom we love the most and become hurt by—can bring our greatest growth. Every fiber of our soul was created by God to love and to generate more love that we might become pure love; the purest energy that both creates and heals.
What a blessing to know that within you lies the purest of love in embryo, and that it is without beginning or end. Uncover it by opening to love's possibility and trusting its ultimate purpose, to become more like our Heavenly Father and Savior. “Love one another,” Jesus Said. He is our Lord and God, our ultimate Mentor and the choicest friend anyone can have. Christ's mission was to teach us how to love—that we are all the spirit children of a loving Heavenly Father created from his eternal love.
God works in mysterious ways, he gives us a taste of his purest love and then allows us challenges to try our faith and strengthen our ability to love. Now, more than ever, the world needs the open sharing and exchange of this healing energy of love. Start with the person most dear to you, and then, with intent to increase your loving and giving spirit, widen the reach of your heart to all others. This I know will bring heaven to earth and a taste of Christ's love to your soul!
With all my love, Betty
Charity Never Faileth
If I speak in the tongues of men
or of angels,
but do not have love,
I am only a resounding gong
or a clanging cymbal.
If I have the gift of prophecy
and can fathom all mysteries
and all knowledge,
and if I have a faith
that can move mountains,
but do not have love,
I am nothing.
If I give all I possess to the poor
and give over my body to
hardship that I may boast,
but do not have love,
I gain nothing.
Love is patient,
Love is kind.
It does not envy,
It does not boast,
Love is not proud.
It does not dishonor others,
Love is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
Love keeps no record of wrongs.
It does not delight in evil.
Love rejoices with the truth.
Love always protects,
Love never fails.
As I stood in the presence of Christ he spoke these words: “Above all else, love one another.” He was firm, emphatic. This was the most important truth I had learned in my experience with him, and he wanted me to understand it, to feel its full impact. It is the most important thing we can know. To love is the reason we exist. To learn to love more fully is the reason we have come to earth. Love is the energy which holds the universe in place. It is the gateway through which we return to our Creator. It can conquer any problem, ease any suffering, heal any disease. Love creates and magnifies the joys of life. And, at the moment of death, love turns all earthly pain into indescribable bliss.
We were conceived in love spiritually, and love is the center of our beings. It is the energy of our souls, the spark of our divine nature. Being made of love, we cleave to it and seek it in all that we do. When we do not have it, or when we have lost it, we grieve. Its presence or absence colors our every action. It is life. It is happiness. It is salvation itself. “God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.” (1 John 4:16)
On earth our spirits miss the electrifying power of God’s love. Our minds are veiled, but our spirits remember his love, and silently we cry for its comfort and soothing warmth. Some of us spend our lives weaving in and out of relationships, searching for the essence of this divine emotion, hunting it, craving it, but never finding it in this world. Some of us cry to God for this love, expecting him to send it to us through another person. But it first must come from ourselves. . .
God knows how desperately lonely we are. He knows how difficult it is to develop true love in a world of heartache and mistrust. To help us he has given sources and examples of love. Many of us have been nurtured by loving parents. Some have loving brothers and sisters. Some receive joyful self-sufficient love from friends or religious leaders—love which demands nothing but gives freely. Some find it in a baby’s face. Some in the arms of a spouse. Some even in the eyes of a stranger. And many of us find love in the words and spirit of our Lord. When we are ready to start emulating this kind of love in our own beings, we will find sources of it in others.
...Love is an emotion of energy that unless expressed, remains unseen. It has power to change the universe. It is endless, it never dies. It cannot hurt, it cannot possess, it cannot withhold. God is Love. He created us in his image. And we have the power in the flesh to express love for God, love for self and love for all humankind. The Apostle John, so loved of Christ, tried to lead us to this understanding. “Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.” (1 John 4:7)”
Readers Ask Betty
Dearest Betty, sometimes I feel so alone!
How can I feel God’s love?
This is our journey here, to learn to give and receive love. Overcoming the feeling of loneliness is a challenge most of us feel at some point in our lives. We can take comfort when we remember the Savior in the garden of Gethsemane. He too, felt alone, and understands our deepest pain and heartache. As we follow his teachings, we will grow to expand our own heart to greater love and become more open to our Heavenly Father’s love that is always around us. We each are his child, his son or daughter. And he wants to hear from us! Perhaps the best way to grow to feel his love is by nurturing our communication with him through prayer, our divine connection to him.
I talk of my own experience learning this in The Awakening Heart:
The gift of love was freely given to me, but the gift of communicating with him was not. In the spirit world I had been able to express my feelings without using words. Our communication was pure and without effort. Back on earth, I found no words that could express my thoughts and emotions. I knew that God already knew my heart; he could see my desire for direct contact within it…I began to think of God as more of a father…someone personal and loving, not just an authority figure. We talked together as parent and child. I shared with him my joys and fears. I began to thank him for the things in which he expressed himself, which was just about everything. I began to look forward to those times we had and soon found that my talks with him did not have to be at night, on my knees, but that I could have an ongoing communication with him all day long.—The Awakening Heart, pp. 45-47
God’s Love can be difficult to understand in the world we live, much less express, and its pureness can overwhelm. But when you find that you are love, and that you are loved unconditionally by God, then no other love compares and you lose all fear of ever losing love again because you know that you are born of everlasting love through the design and wisdom of God.
When in heaven you learned that we can literally open the windows of heaven for creative inspiration and abundance.
How do we do that?
When we acknowledge our source, and are grateful to that source, it is natural to receive in greater abundance.
“I also understood the importance of thanking God for the things we receive. Gratitude is an eternal virtue. In humility we must ask, and in gratitude we should receive. The more we thank God for the blessings we receive, the more we open the way for further blessings. His desire to bless us is full to overflowing. If we will open our hearts and minds to receive his blessings, we too will be filled to overflowing. We will know that he lives. We may become like the angels themselves, helping others who are in need.”—Embraced By The Light , p. 107
Learning to live with gratitude in our hearts also increases our ability when we do walk through life’s challenges and lessons.“There is magic in gratitude. It frees us from worry and competition in life. It opens our hearts and hands to genuine love, ironically allowing our hearts and hands to be filled again. . . . Gratitude helps ward off negativity. Being grateful for the good things in life invites their continued influence.”—The Ripple Effect, pp. 30, 76
Gratitude and abundance follow "acknowledgment." As we prayerfully and thankfully acknowledge our Creator, learn to recognize his hand in our life, and even share the blessings we have been given with others, we open the way for God's blessings."We are sent here to live life fully, to live it abundantly, to find joy in our own creations . . . to use our free will to expand and magnify our lives."—Embraced By The Light, p. 59
We are all “terminal,” we will all die one day, and though we suffer loss while here, we can remember that this world is only a temporary home."Life does not end when we die. Death is a rebirth into a spirit world of light and love, a transition from the physical to the spiritual that is no more frightening or painful than passing between rooms through an open doorway. It is a joyful homecoming to our natural home..." –The Awakening Heart, p. xi
of my most oft asked questions have to do
with hell and punishment for our sins in
the afterlife. Many want to know if God's
unconditional love is real and how this affects
the consequences for our mistakes and sins.
Here are some samples of the questions I
if everyone just automatically goes to heaven,
then why did Jesus Christ come into this
world? Clearly, there must be punishment
for our sins.
in the end, does God forgive all sins no
matter how big or small?
there is no hell, wouldn't the Bible be wrong?
And then, wouldn't God be wrong since the
Bible is God's word? Please enlighten me
on this because I'm living in fear of the
brother died without receiving the last sacrament.
It still bothers me not knowing if he is
reconciled with God.
can only share what has been given me and
what was taught me during my visit to the
spirit world. When I asked the Savior similar
questions, he asked me if I would throw any
of my children into a burning hell of fire
and brimstone. Then he gently reminded me
how much greater the Heavenly Father's love
is than mine. If a son shall ask bread
of any of you that is a father, will he give
him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he
for a fish give him a serpent? (Luke 11:11) Concerning
hell, I wrote in The Ripple Effect:
. . I can say that I did not see “hell,” and
also that I find it hard to conceive of
such a place, given what I experienced.
I felt greater mercy and understanding
from God than I had ever imagined. To say
that the fires of hell will claim anyone
forever is to deny the extent of God’s
love, of his understanding, and of his
willingness to forgive. We doubt his judgment
in the first place if we believe he would
send us here, block us from heaven, and
then expect us to return to him unblemished.
We must not think in black and white, but
more like God thinks, without limiting
any possibility for love and redemption.
We should try everyday to see the good
in people as he sees it, Not that we should
blindly trust all people, but we can temper
our judgment with the recognition that
a piece of God dwells in each person, which
is always redeemable.
25 years I have thought about this judgment
and forgiveness and about the worth of
each soul to God. My experience was just
my personal experience, not the collective
experience of all, but pondering these
things I have come to the conclusion that
no soul, once remembering his or her true
nature and previous life with God, would
behave in ways God would not approve of.
To do so would damage their own happiness.
But in life we don’t remember. We
cannot hear, see, or physically feel God.
We act blindly and perhaps our true colors
or our true ignorance comes out. These
revelations about ourselves teach us what
we need to work on to become more like
God, and he kindly gives us the time and
space to work on them . . .—The
Ripple Effect, page 89
create many of our own consequences by the
choices we make. When we err or make mistakes,
we suffer the consequences for those choices,
this is how we learn to make right choices!
Opposition is necessary for our growth, and
growth is why we are here. Again, from The
. . This statement may appear contradictory,
but in an important respect I no longer
view evil as evil. I view it as opposition
with a purpose. People choose the wrong,
not because they want to hurt themselves,
but because they have not yet learned to
choose the good. Through false traditions
of those who teach them or through the
enticements of Satan, people are led to
believe that negativity will solve their
problems. Negativity seems to have the
instant ability to serve without effort
and so is usually the first route taken.
As people choose a path not intended by God
for them, they will eventually learn, but through
a harder, longer process than necessary. Regardless
of the process, though, whether in this life
or in the next, it will yet turn them
to God. “For it is written, . . . saith
the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every
tongue shall confess to God” (Romans
14:11). Every knee shall bow and every tongue
confess. God will use any means at his command
to reclaim his lost children—even if
it is through the things which they suffer.
Hell is a tool at God’s command both
here and in the hereafter and is a state of
being, that individuals place themselves into.
It claims its own: those who refuse to turn
from negativity. But since all will eventually
confess that God is God, we know he will eventually
reclaim all his sheep, even the one who leaves
the ninety and nine for a time.
know the endless love of God, and I know
that if there is a way to reach any soul,
he will find it and use it—for eternity
if need be. Every spirit has the seed of
God in it, a seed that only he knows the
greatness of, and we cannot judge.—The
Ripple Effect, pages 86-87
does love all his children, and when we fear
him we actually draw ourselves farther away
understood how others had been instrumental
in distancing me from him, though I felt
no bitterness or judgment toward them. I
saw how men and women in authority over
me had become prey to negative energy and
had taught belief in God through fear.
Their aims were positive, but their deeds
were negative. Because of their
own fears, they were using fear to control
others. They intimidated those under
them to believe in God, to “fear
God or go to hell.” This
prevented me from really loving God. I
understood again that fear is the opposite
of love and is Satan's greatest tool. Since
I feared God, I could not truly love him,
and in not loving him, I couldn't love
myself or others purely either. The
law of love had been broken.—Embraced
By The Light, pages 60-61
is separation from God, but he loves all
his children, and though we may move away
from him for a time, eventually, I do not
believe one of his children will be lost.
man of you, having an hundred sheep, if
he lose one of them, doth not leave the
ninety and nine in the wilderness, and
go after that which is lost, until he find
it? And when he hath found it, he layeth
it on his shoulders, rejoicing. And when
he cometh home, he calleth together his
friends and neighbours, saying unto them,
Rejoice with me; for I have found my sheep
which was lost. I say unto you, that likewise
joy shall be in heaven over one sinner
that repenteth, more than over ninety and
nine just persons, which need no repentance.
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Friday, March 7th
God Is a Compassionate Father
God perfectly understands our lack of knowledge. He knows that most of us do not remember our commitments to him. In his eyes we are like little children: susceptible and even expected to make mistakes. —The Ripple Effect - page 38
The Lord is good to all: and his tender mercies are over all his works. Psalms 145:9
Thank you, Father, for in your wisdom I learn to live by faith without perfect knowledge. This, I know, refines my spirit, as you know my weaknesses and frailties. In my ignorance I often fall like a baby learning to walk. But I know that you are always beside me, lifting me and holding me. Your grace and love offer me hope through the tender mercies of Jesus Christ, who set the path and directs me to walk in his light.
Affirmation: My Heavenly Father loves and understand me. He forgives me with endless compassion.
“Try saying to yourself out loud: ‘This is the day which the LORD hath made; I will rejoice and be glad in it!’ and see if you do not feel a sense of growing excitement within. Because that is a person who is grateful! That is a person who chooses to rejoice in God's creation of each new day, who acknowledges God's love and desire to bless his children and who chooses to live in alignment with his loving will. ”